Being selfish is a common mechanism that will always be apparent within the human condition. It’s not just the ego at work, yet it’s an inherent archetype built within our psyche. It’s a part of our survival instinct. If we weren’t selfish enough to protect the one life we were given, then would we truly survive?
Being selfish can be a good trait if it were used in more of an optimistic fashion. For instance, if we aren’t selfish enough to love ourselves, then how are we to truly know that we are capable of loving anything? If we do not strive to attain the lifestyle, possessions and people we wish to have in our lives, we will never find happiness. This is no excuse to be arrogant and pretend you are above others though. It’s simply required to care about your self.
Selfishness becomes a problem when we begin to care about ourselves to the point where we cannot give empathy or show compassion for others who aren’t selfish in optimistic ways. When we put ourselves on a pedestal just to look down on others, we aren’t even being selfish in the right ways. Instead we’re comparing ourselves to others and attempting to love ourselves more than the perception we have of ourselves and how we assume others perceive us.
You can keep your selfishness in check though by simply expecting others to be selfish. Understanding that each person in this world has their very own destiny as well as struggles, and knowing that they are being selfish because their own individual survival depends upon it really makes you look at their behavior in a different light. This doesn’t mean be a doormat and let a bitter, selfish person walk all over you and use you. Simply observe from a distance without judgement and appreciate the fact that we all struggle but still survive.
In the end, you only have yourself. This existence will automatically alienate you from others due to the countless reasons each of us has to be selfish. The truth is, if you’re selfish in the right ways, you’ll always succeed. That requires doing exactly what you know your heart truly desires. Nobody else should ever influence that!
Be selfish enough to live the life you deserve and accept that it’s part of the human condition. Know that we all require being selfish to grow.